... jealousy comes and goes, depending on how good I feel about myself. When I'm not taking care of getting what I want, it's easy to get jealous and think that someone else is getting what I am not. I need to remember that it's my job to get my needs met. I feel the jealousy, but I'm not willing to act on it so it mostly goes away. A quote from The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton, Catherine A. Liszt ...
Existing
I apologise for this apology. I seem to do this far too often, write nothing for months, then when I feel like writing something, I start the post with an apology. Again, I am doing this one more time in this post. As I have previously written before, the sexuality swing I am on seems to be very much swinging towards the asexual side of life. My desire for intimacy with Minxy or my Mistress have been non-existent. I'm not sure why they seem to stick around given my lack of desire to be with either of them. I don't mean to put pressure on myself to perform for each of them, or to worry about this lack of sexuality and sex drive, but I just feel there is no reason to continue with these relationships if I cannot give them the physical intimacy they each deserve. My life feels more like an existance than living. Once again I am running ...
An Introduction Into Bondage Adult Toys and Activities [Guest Post]
The following post has been prepared by RandyFox. A family-owned online store based out of Sydney, Australia. When it comes to the mainstream perception of bondage and bondage toys, the viewpoint tends to be pretty negative, which often turns people off from having a conversation about BDSM. Although there are plenty of reasons as to why there is a negative misconception about kinky sex, it boils down to the fact that people are just unlikely to talk about the subject. After all, it is a sensitive one in all sense of the word. This is extremely unfortunate though as leather restraints, spanking, gags, breath play, and fantasy role-play can be lighthearted, fun, and incredibly enjoyable even to someone who is new to BDSM activities. With this said, let’s shed some light on what bondage play can look like for beginners in comparison to ...
What am I?
I can not seem to work out what I am in a range of different areas in my life? Whether it is work? Or my sexuality? My online presence? Or one of any number of things. While I do not need to fit into any one category, I feel that I need to fit into one (or more) just to satisfy my indecision about what I am. I've mentioned my struggles with each of them in the past, but even now, many months later, I still can not fit myself in one (or many) different categories. I generally lean towards one particular persuasion in all these areas, but I find pieces of me which also exclude me from them at the same time. I'm not a homogeneous being, but I guess we all aren't. But I still struggle with the need to categorise myself even though I know that I don't need to. I am me, and I am what I am, but I need a category. ...
Sexual Fluidity
While I have called myself the caged human, I feel that my sexuality is fluid and I am unable to settle on a single identity. I am a person who deals in black and white and would like to put myself in a single category. Some days I have no sexual feelings at all, and would call myself an asexual. Other days, my sexual attraction is to both men and women and I would probably call myself a bi- or pansexual. And yet other days I would have to call myself a heterosexual as my attraction is purely towards females. I seem to have a sexual fluidity that does not sit in any one category or orientation for more than a few days at a time. Some days I would love to have a simple life where I had a fairly static sexuality that could be locked into a predetermined category and I would be happy. But I also feel that being static is not me either. ...