Clearly the flow of words here at Minxy & caged has been less than optimal. The last post of any significance was No is a Difficult Word when I tried to talk about how I seem to say 'yes' all the time, often to the detriment of myself and my mental health. Have things really changed since then? Probably not! Before that was my thoughts about being polyamorous, and being home alone while Minxy was off on holidays/weekend away with her poly partner at the time. Both of these posts were back in November 2018, last year. Really goes to show that since Mr 0 has appeared on the scene that not much here on the blog has occurred. (If you didn't realise we now have another child, it just shows how lacklustre we have been here on the blog.) Which brings me to my current thought patterns about the blog. What do we do with it? I've had ...
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Relationships
I'll share the one thing I do know about myself: I suck at relationships!!! ...
No is a Difficult Word
No I find this is one of the most difficult words to use regularly. It doesn't matter what the scenario is: it could be to myself buying a new "toy"; at work when someone requests some help; when it comes to doing something I don't want to do with family/friends; when Minxy wants to do something with her boyfriend. To me, it is impossible to say "no" in these and a multitude of other situations. I find that I am a "yes" man. If I'm not a "yes" man than I am non-committal to things asked of me. Saying "no" is difficult no matter how great (or little) the hurt would be to the person on the other end of the conversation I am having. I am positive that saying "no" will have no impact on some, although I still feel responsible to answer with a "yes", even to the possible detriment to myself. I can say with some ...
Lonely Poly Nights
Nights like tonight...I am feeling down while at home while Minxy is on holidays with her boyfriend...My other is at home with her husband. It is just me and the TV and it sucks. Nights like tonight...I have a desire to be spanked, bruised and denied. Minxy is with her boyfriend on holidays. My other is helping her husband. It's me and the TV and it sucks. Nights like tonight...I want to talk to her, wrap my arms around her, but she is away from me. So it is just the TV and me and it sucks. So why am I poly? When there are nights like these, I really question why. It has been a tough couple of weeks with work and stress. Dates seem to be further apart...She gets the attention and I get the solitude. Life doesn't feel particularly fair right at this moment. In moments like these, being poly sucks. Some might call this poly drama, it is ...
A Little Spark?
It seems that Minxy and caged has lost the spark that it once had. We had toys to review, sexcapades to write about, discussions about non-monogamy and orgasm denial. Most of that seems to have gone by the wayside since Miss 2.5 came onto the scene. Children certainly put a dampener on the sexcapades unless you spend time focusing on making sure they happen. We haven't made the effort to make sure we did. I can see that in our relationship now. I'm not going to pretend that all is well in the world of Minxy and caged. If anything, this post is more an acknowledgement that we need to do something before it is too late. What the next steps involve are unknown, but this will start a discussion. What resources can anyone provide that may be of use for a couple that have lost the spark? ...